When we talk about marriages, we usually come up with two type of marriages: arranged marriage, and self-agreed marriage, and speaking of arranged marriages, we completely disagree with the topic. This is not a good thing to do. There’re a lot of disadvantages.
The fact is that, this kind of marriage usually started without asking for opinion. This is a serious problem that can cause a lot of troubles. Here are the reasons:
It could be the cause of suicide
Many people kill their selves just because of this. Sometimes they love other person, but they can’t marry them, which leads to nothing else but killing themselves. Like many articles in newspaper, they had no choice left, which is kinda sad to be honest.They aren’t likely to engage well in the family
They might not have the same interest, which is what lovers are looking for in each other. If you don’t have the same interest you won’t likely to be engaged well in the relationship. Which is true. Not even a couple who seems to be perfect at first.This kind of marriage won’t last so long
Some of them just met then get married. Which is not a good point. The longer we know each other, the longer this relationship is going to last, because everybody needs to understand each other before getting married. Even if they live with each other till the end of their life, it's mostly not because of their love, it's because of their children.See? These problems are the serious problems we need to think about before making any arranged marriage, and that is why we strongly disagree with it, and please parents out there, if you decide to do so, please please please! Ask your son or daughter about it first. Let them decide, because it's their life after all.
this is the actual story that happened to me
For the past 2 months, me and my friend became very close through Facebook messages. She wasn’t the first girl I noticed in the class though, but It’s all started when she was having some problems. I helped her to relax more. At first we were just friends, but soon enough I began to develop a feeling of liking for her, and after that, we started our conversation daily. She was a very nice person. She’s an angel sent from heaven if I were to describe her.
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For about a month or something, I realized that it would be unfair for me and for her if I would keep my feelings for her a secret. Maybe, just maybe, if I tell her, she would give me a chance… even just the smallest bit of chance for her. So one night, I decided to tell her how I really felt, how I really love her. She never seemed to care. what she replied were “lol”, “thanks”. I tried to tell her for like two or three days. Until one day I tried to make the conversation looks serious, and she said it would take sometimes. I was so sure that must be a no, but it is what it is. I calm myself down for a while.
So, I waited. Then, I’d got an idea to make a blog for her birthday, which is NOT this blog. It didn’t take so much time… about 2 days. When I was haft way to finish it, I showed to her, because it’s just a countdown timer on the front page. When her birthday comes, I’ll show it to her.
One night, I felt like the messages are replied later than normal… I don’t know. It might just be my own feeling, but that killed me inside. Whenever I started to talk about our relationship, she seemed to try to change the subject to something else.
And now I finally know the answer! What I’ve thought was real! I’ve seen it from far away. ‘told u I’m smart! 😀 I’m just saying… I knew it… I’ve learnt a lot, and a big thank to people on internet.
and… now I might have to accept the fact that she doesn’t love me, but every time we text each other, it reminds me of the pain that unrequited love gives me. She tried not to tell me directly that she doesn’t love me, but it is somehow obvious by the way she told me before.
What can I really say? I really love her, but I am just not lucky enough to be the one she really wants.. :'(
At lease I have another “best friend”
Because what’s worse than knowing you want something, besides knowing you can never have it?
I’m not crying, I swear to god, I’m not. :'(
I just want to make this one short, so, let me explain this with Lust and Love as example.
Lust is only about the look.
Sure… it’s about look, but remember look doesn’t last long, and the look is
what attracts every person. But as you get to know someone, look doesn’t seem
to work anymore. Looks are superficial. To like a person based on their
physical appearance is shallow. Looks don't last, time-wise and depth-wise.
Looks don't show who a person is and what they are like. Would you marry a
person based on purely the fact that they are good-looking? No, you wouldn't.
Love is about personality.
Yes, it’s what I think is the most important thing. You marry a person based on
how you like their personality, how you get along, how you love them and want
to spend your life with them. Right?
You know the saying 'don't
judge a book by its cover.' Well, most people know that's kind of hard to do.
Literally speaking, if you are into teen romance novels only, for instance, and
you see a book that has a picture of a superhero on the front, you probably
won't read that book. But what if you did pick up that book and read it, and
turns out it's not really about superheroes at all? Or, it is about superheroes,
but you actually like it? See, that's how it is when you judge a person by
their looks. You're not seeing the whole person. You're not seeing nearly
anything about the person. You may not even be seeing anything at all about
what the person is even actually like. Maybe you think all people who dress in
black with tattoos and some piercings are emo or Goth and are into heavy metal
and are freaks. Well, that kind of style is just that: a STYLE. It doesn't
necessarily say anything about the person's personality. Or maybe you meet this
blond girl who is a cheerleader and is very peppy and happy. You might think
she's dumb, or snobby, or self-centered, or popular. Truth is, she may not be
ANY one of those things you might be thinking she is. Stereotypes aren't fair.
One glance and you label a person? Not very just, am I right?
I used to attend an event,
saw a lot of girls there. Yes I said it. A lot of girls dress so sexy, but when
we all talk, they talked politely! But still sometimes, when you see the some
crack heads, you need to back off right away. I meant for your own safety. :D
So, I guess it’s okay to say
how the freezer looks is not so important, but what it has inside. Oh wait… How
We Look Is Unimportant, It's Who We Are Inside That Counts!
