When we talk about marriages, we usually come up with two type of marriages: arranged marriage, and self-agreed marriage, and speaking of arranged marriages, we completely disagree with the topic. This is not a good thing to do. There’re a lot of disadvantages.
The fact is that, this kind of marriage usually started without asking for opinion. This is a serious problem that can cause a lot of troubles. Here are the reasons:
It could be the cause of suicide
Many people kill their selves just because of this. Sometimes they love other person, but they can’t marry them, which leads to nothing else but killing themselves. Like many articles in newspaper, they had no choice left, which is kinda sad to be honest.They aren’t likely to engage well in the family
They might not have the same interest, which is what lovers are looking for in each other. If you don’t have the same interest you won’t likely to be engaged well in the relationship. Which is true. Not even a couple who seems to be perfect at first.This kind of marriage won’t last so long
Some of them just met then get married. Which is not a good point. The longer we know each other, the longer this relationship is going to last, because everybody needs to understand each other before getting married. Even if they live with each other till the end of their life, it's mostly not because of their love, it's because of their children.See? These problems are the serious problems we need to think about before making any arranged marriage, and that is why we strongly disagree with it, and please parents out there, if you decide to do so, please please please! Ask your son or daughter about it first. Let them decide, because it's their life after all.
this is the actual story that happened to me
For the past 2 months, me and my friend became very close through Facebook messages. She wasn’t the first girl I noticed in the class though, but It’s all started when she was having some problems. I helped her to relax more. At first we were just friends, but soon enough I began to develop a feeling of liking for her, and after that, we started our conversation daily. She was a very nice person. She’s an angel sent from heaven if I were to describe her.
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For about a month or something, I realized that it would be unfair for me and for her if I would keep my feelings for her a secret. Maybe, just maybe, if I tell her, she would give me a chance… even just the smallest bit of chance for her. So one night, I decided to tell her how I really felt, how I really love her. She never seemed to care. what she replied were “lol”, “thanks”. I tried to tell her for like two or three days. Until one day I tried to make the conversation looks serious, and she said it would take sometimes. I was so sure that must be a no, but it is what it is. I calm myself down for a while.
So, I waited. Then, I’d got an idea to make a blog for her birthday, which is NOT this blog. It didn’t take so much time… about 2 days. When I was haft way to finish it, I showed to her, because it’s just a countdown timer on the front page. When her birthday comes, I’ll show it to her.
One night, I felt like the messages are replied later than normal… I don’t know. It might just be my own feeling, but that killed me inside. Whenever I started to talk about our relationship, she seemed to try to change the subject to something else.
And now I finally know the answer! What I’ve thought was real! I’ve seen it from far away. ‘told u I’m smart! 😀 I’m just saying… I knew it… I’ve learnt a lot, and a big thank to people on internet.
and… now I might have to accept the fact that she doesn’t love me, but every time we text each other, it reminds me of the pain that unrequited love gives me. She tried not to tell me directly that she doesn’t love me, but it is somehow obvious by the way she told me before.
What can I really say? I really love her, but I am just not lucky enough to be the one she really wants.. :'(
At lease I have another “best friend”
Because what’s worse than knowing you want something, besides knowing you can never have it?
I’m not crying, I swear to god, I’m not. :'(
I just want to make this one short, so, let me explain this with Lust and Love as example.
Lust is only about the look.
Sure… it’s about look, but remember look doesn’t last long, and the look is
what attracts every person. But as you get to know someone, look doesn’t seem
to work anymore. Looks are superficial. To like a person based on their
physical appearance is shallow. Looks don't last, time-wise and depth-wise.
Looks don't show who a person is and what they are like. Would you marry a
person based on purely the fact that they are good-looking? No, you wouldn't.
Love is about personality.
Yes, it’s what I think is the most important thing. You marry a person based on
how you like their personality, how you get along, how you love them and want
to spend your life with them. Right?
You know the saying 'don't
judge a book by its cover.' Well, most people know that's kind of hard to do.
Literally speaking, if you are into teen romance novels only, for instance, and
you see a book that has a picture of a superhero on the front, you probably
won't read that book. But what if you did pick up that book and read it, and
turns out it's not really about superheroes at all? Or, it is about superheroes,
but you actually like it? See, that's how it is when you judge a person by
their looks. You're not seeing the whole person. You're not seeing nearly
anything about the person. You may not even be seeing anything at all about
what the person is even actually like. Maybe you think all people who dress in
black with tattoos and some piercings are emo or Goth and are into heavy metal
and are freaks. Well, that kind of style is just that: a STYLE. It doesn't
necessarily say anything about the person's personality. Or maybe you meet this
blond girl who is a cheerleader and is very peppy and happy. You might think
she's dumb, or snobby, or self-centered, or popular. Truth is, she may not be
ANY one of those things you might be thinking she is. Stereotypes aren't fair.
One glance and you label a person? Not very just, am I right?
I used to attend an event,
saw a lot of girls there. Yes I said it. A lot of girls dress so sexy, but when
we all talk, they talked politely! But still sometimes, when you see the some
crack heads, you need to back off right away. I meant for your own safety. :D
So, I guess it’s okay to say
how the freezer looks is not so important, but what it has inside. Oh wait… How
We Look Is Unimportant, It's Who We Are Inside That Counts!
you know, I told my friends that they should level up their games. If they get turned down, it's not a big deal. Acting like im a love/dating expert or some shit. Tell them to build up the "f*ck that b*tch" mindset, but they don't actually know that I don't like admitting that I've been hurt or feeling like a dumbass when I get rejected. I know, you might say that I'm writing this just to get over a person or try to win her heart or wtf ever....
You know, sometimes I'm just afraid to text a girl or contact her or whatever just because I'm just afraid of being ignored and shit like that, so that's why I save myself from getting ignored and sit back thinking about wtf did I do wrong or why did I just do/say that. I mean if I like this girl and I'm trying to talk but then get i ignored, It tells me that okay okay the person that I'm trying to talk with doesn't care about me, doesn't really want to talk to me, and that shit makes me questioning wtf is life? look, when I text somebody and they text back like 20-30 hours later even though I know she is not busy, I talk to myself like I'm not even on her mind so what's the f*cking point. I know a lot of guys don't like to admit it, but deep inside they're all be like: *shot triggered straight to the heart* yo, that shit f*cking hurts. I can sometimes tell myself that eh, that's just a random girl I've just met and there's millions other girls in the world, but when it's actually somebody that you think you're falling for, and you both really have talked for sometime now, then you're getting rejected or ignored, that shit is weak... damn bruh... damn... goddamn...
And now, I admit it. It hurts. And I'm not coming like a p*ssy and start crying and shit. I mean if you're talking to me, and now I'm having you on my mind, because I now focus on you and you and yes, you. and you know that I just write wtf comes to my mind right now, and that's some real shit. I know I've tried to do anything, literally, anything not to fall into that hole that will take probably a good 1 or 2 years to climb back up.
And in my case climbing up is not the point. I'll be like: yo, what did I do wrong? Why would I ever tell her that? that's not even cool I'm so lost. and that feel would probably turn me into that mindset. But it's not EASY! Sometimes I really just want that person that I could just focus on and be all about her, experience all the feels and stuff like that. And I know this thing might sound kinda cheesy, because I hate when a man saying all this shit out and got hurt. Imma be like: this f*cking p*ssy is not a real man. But now I might just have become one. I mean when you like somebody, that shit is the best experience ever! talking to her, and every time I do have that feel, it's so amazing. I dream of the things I would do for her, do with her.
Sometimes, at first that thing goes right then it starts falling down hill. and you know what? why? why do I even try, Why do i even look for shit like that? But this probably the end of this post now. if you made it here at the end, it's cool. I appreciate that. smile emoticon This post might make no sense but thanks for reading.
You know, sometimes I'm just afraid to text a girl or contact her or whatever just because I'm just afraid of being ignored and shit like that, so that's why I save myself from getting ignored and sit back thinking about wtf did I do wrong or why did I just do/say that. I mean if I like this girl and I'm trying to talk but then get i ignored, It tells me that okay okay the person that I'm trying to talk with doesn't care about me, doesn't really want to talk to me, and that shit makes me questioning wtf is life? look, when I text somebody and they text back like 20-30 hours later even though I know she is not busy, I talk to myself like I'm not even on her mind so what's the f*cking point. I know a lot of guys don't like to admit it, but deep inside they're all be like: *shot triggered straight to the heart* yo, that shit f*cking hurts. I can sometimes tell myself that eh, that's just a random girl I've just met and there's millions other girls in the world, but when it's actually somebody that you think you're falling for, and you both really have talked for sometime now, then you're getting rejected or ignored, that shit is weak... damn bruh... damn... goddamn...
And now, I admit it. It hurts. And I'm not coming like a p*ssy and start crying and shit. I mean if you're talking to me, and now I'm having you on my mind, because I now focus on you and you and yes, you. and you know that I just write wtf comes to my mind right now, and that's some real shit. I know I've tried to do anything, literally, anything not to fall into that hole that will take probably a good 1 or 2 years to climb back up.
And in my case climbing up is not the point. I'll be like: yo, what did I do wrong? Why would I ever tell her that? that's not even cool I'm so lost. and that feel would probably turn me into that mindset. But it's not EASY! Sometimes I really just want that person that I could just focus on and be all about her, experience all the feels and stuff like that. And I know this thing might sound kinda cheesy, because I hate when a man saying all this shit out and got hurt. Imma be like: this f*cking p*ssy is not a real man. But now I might just have become one. I mean when you like somebody, that shit is the best experience ever! talking to her, and every time I do have that feel, it's so amazing. I dream of the things I would do for her, do with her.
Sometimes, at first that thing goes right then it starts falling down hill. and you know what? why? why do I even try, Why do i even look for shit like that? But this probably the end of this post now. if you made it here at the end, it's cool. I appreciate that. smile emoticon This post might make no sense but thanks for reading.
from: my facebook
The World Is a Book and Those Who Don't Travel Only One Page
Would you prefer travelling the world or staying at
home? Why travelling is good for you?
There’s about 200 countries in total, but how many
countries have you been to? Every countries has its own unique thing, unique
view, and you should go see some of them. There’s a saying about this, and it
said: the world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page. What is
this trying to say?
Really, what is that trying to say? To make it much easier,
let’s say the world is the book, and the countries are like pages of the book.
Every country has its own unique things just like every page of a book. So what
it is trying to say is that there’s a lot of places to go, but if you don’t
travel, you would never see the view of the outside world, and this one
inspires you to take a trip to somewhere exciting that you’ve never been to
before, just to make sure you know what everything around the world is like. Travelling
is good for you, but why? Why is it good for you?
Well, here are why it is good
for you:
It helps you open your
eyes: it let you see how people live
around the world.
It creates friendship: no matter where you go, at some point of time, you
will make friends, and travelling helps you a lot with this.
It will help you discover
yourself: some students are doing
this. They call it gap year. Sometimes, you just lost. You don’t know what to
do with your life, but this will help you see in a bigger picture.
It gives you ideas of how
to live your life: to be honest you
would even transform yourself into someone that is more awesome. Living with
different group of people helps you to learn more.
And last but not less, YOU
WILL BECOME A STORYTELLER! : normally, we have so many stories to talk, and
when you’re back from the trip you will have something to tell, no matter what
it is. Whether it is a funny, a sad, a romantic, or an exciting story, you can
tell.
Back to the business, this quote is said to inspire you, to
encourage you, to motivate you to get out and travel, to see the different
cultures and the lifestyles. This is a good way to see things. I completely
agree with this idea, do you? Tell me your opinion down below.
Do you have goals? Do you know how to complete them? Laozi, a
Chinese philosopher, once said: “journey of a thousand miles begins with a
single step”, and wow I like this quote already! But what did he mean by that?
Everyone has their own goals, and
they are not going to accomplish it in the same way. Some people have long term
goals, and some have short term goals, while some other have both. As seen in
learning, people who want to be doctors will try to focus on learning biology,
physics, chemistry, and mathematics. Those subjects are the first step of
becoming a doctor. How could you be doctor if you don’t even know where the
heart is located in the human body?
Going a little further, I have another simple example. Imagine
you’re on your bed in your room, and you need water. The goal is to get the
water by yourself. The first thing to do is to get up out of bed, get out of
your room, then go the kitchen, and get the water to drink, and congratulation!
You have completed your mission. As you can see, the first step is to get out
of bed. If you don’t get out of bed, then you cannot get out of your room, and
remember, you ain’t no Naruto. You cannot do magical teleportation trick
like him. You cannot go psheeewww then ended up at the kitchen and get the
water, then say, “ah! Mission completed!” You’re living in real life.
And yeah, I think I’ve gone too far (I don’t like watching anime
that much). Let’s get back on track, so the quote is a thousand miles journey
begins with a single step, after all the examples I’ve shown, the quote
actually mean to motivate you to take action. A thousand mile journey here means
the goal. A single step means the first step. So now the meaning of this must
be, “Every goal starts with a first step.”
The thing is that, if you wait for something to happen, chances
are it won’t happen. Laozi really wanted to encourage you to take your first
step in doing something in order to complete your goal, but still, to start
doing doesn’t mean to succeed. Have I ever failed before? Yes, I have! But I'm going to save it for later. :)
So, what are my last word?
Remember! Start doing, stop giving up, JUST DO IT! And stay awesome!
